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Originally Posted by MrSelfDestruct
In addition, the concept of sexual vulnerability is foreign to most guys. We can't even begin to know what it feels like to have to worry about rape, nevermind actually have to deal with the aftermath.
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Are you saying that men can't be raped? I speak from personal experience here ... YES, we can.
As for the topic on hand here. It's been said numerous times: Ratbastid is correct. Men want to fix things. The only way to deal with that is to tell your SO that you just want him to listen and acknowledge. When he starts to try to "fix" it, gently remind him that you don't need to be fixed. Gently.
Also, the onus is not just on your SO. You have to acknowledge that he may not always react the way you would like.
It has taken me years to work this out with my wife, but our relationship became "better" when we figured it out.
Remind him you just want him to actively listen to you. The key word is "actively."