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I fully agree with ratbastid on this. In addition, the concept of sexual vulnerability is foreign to most guys. We can't even begin to know what it feels like to have to worry about rape, nevermind actually have to deal with the aftermath. To continue ratbastid's analogy here, not only is he unable to find the right tool in his mental toolbox, he doesn't even know what the thing looks like or what it does.
He knows that he doesn't know what he can do to help, and it scares the hell out of him that he can't figure out how to help you, the person closest to him, get over the most horrible and traumatic thing that could happen to you. Rape is the atomic bomb of personal trauma, and all he knows how to do is duck and cover.
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