Originally Posted by ratbastid

The analogy I use here is: ever played with a puppy? A puppy's favorite game is to dance around just out of arm's reach. If you lunge for the puppy, it'll skitter away from you. You'll NEVER catch the puppy. But if you sit down and be still, the puppy will come up and investigate you. If you're still enough and don't make any sudden moves, the puppy might even climb into your lap. Make the puppy come to you.