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Originally Posted by MySexyAssJ
-most of my sisters friends are the same way she is, except for the fact that they do it to her, not so much her doing it to them. she's pretty nice to them, but they will be quick to do some messed up shit to her. they'd be the ones that she doesn't do it to.
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She's the low dog in her pack, the one that gets the most abuse but wants desperately to be accepted. There may be some self-esteem issues there -- why else would somebody take that crap just to hang with people who abuse her -- and she's acting out on the abuse by doing to you what's been done to her. She can't do it to her "friends," or they'd reject her, but she can do it to you safely, by acting just like they do.
I'm not real hopeful on your chances for a good relationship here. You'd have to really lay down the law to get her attention, and keep laying it down every time she acts up. That would probably inhibit her. A time or two in my young adult years I blew up at my sister (same dynamic) and it helped back her off the worst of her behavior.
But with hubby there backing up her bad behavior, I just don't know. (When I laid it out for my sister, _her_ husband gave me the thumbs-up, literally.)