I just want to say thank you to everyone who has responded to my thread. you've all given me a lot of insight with the things that you've said. you definitely made me think about a couple of things, so thank you
and Elphaba.. in response to your questions:
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Originally Posted by Elphaba
In answer to the OP question, absolutely NO. I think you might prefer to know *why* she is behaving this way toward you.
May I ask for some additional information?
- What is your age and your sister's age.
- What other siblings do you have, and their ages.
- How would you describe the parenting style of mom and dad?
- Who are the other people that your sister treats this way?
- Are their people whom she never treats this way?
- Did you know her husband before they were married?
I might have a better understanding of the family dynamics with this info.
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-I'm 23 and she's 26
-its just us 2, no other siblings
-my parents weren't like the best parents when it came to things. they never really handled situations the way they needed to be handled. like for example: lets say my sister was being bitchy when we were little and decided to yank a toy out of my hand and play with it. instead of the telling her that she should give the toy back and ask for it nicely, they'd let it slide. that was their style. they didn't provide a lot of guidance.
-my sister treats a lot of people this way. its hard to pinpoint exactly what type of person it is, but I've noticed that in one way or another, she's been 2-faced to just about everyone.
-most of my sisters friends are the same way she is, except for the fact that they do it to her, not so much her doing it to them. she's pretty nice to them, but they will be quick to do some messed up shit to her. they'd be the ones that she doesn't do it to.
-my sister and her husband got married 3 months after being a couple, so I only knew him for about that long. 3 months or so. other than that I'd see him around because he was friends with my sisters best friends husband, but I never really knew him until they got together.
i hope this information helps
also, in reponse to Psycho Dads question:
i suppose there might be some sort of insecurity that makes him feel like he needs to create a wedge between my sister and i, because I'm the only person he does this to.