I was in a somewhat similar situation as the girl. While the guys weren't friends, I did confide in the other guy and I guess he thought he was definitely in the 'friend-zone'.
As Abaya wisely said...
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Originally Posted by Abaya
I would hate you if you did that, and I found out later that you liked me (and believe me, she's a woman; she'll find out. Never doubt that fact.)
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I found out that this guy had a crush on me. We had been friends for 2 years and I had been going on and on about my disfunctional engagement for that period of time asking him for advice and whatnot.
However, I didn't hate him for not telling me. In fact we've now been married for 5 years. But this was my situation and I voted in the poll but as Cynthetiq pointed out situations are different and, as in his cases, sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't.
You can't sit around and dwell on it, that's a waste of time and life is short. Either take the chance or let it be, but yea she'll find out eventually I'm sure. So you might as well deal with it now.
I agree with Abaya, don't move in with her without telling her the circumstances. That could turn really ugly and be a miserable experience for both of you.