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Well, I'm a woman and I'd have to agree with the no-balls argument. I've been on the other side.
You're hemming and hawing and making excuses for her, on the premise of being "respectful." The only respectful thing to do is own up, tell her how you feel, and take whatever consequences come your way. She might slap you and never speak to you again. She might embrace you and you'll end up happily ever after. Or she'll be confused, and you'll end up somewhere in the middle. Any of those outcomes are better than your current position. And they are a HELL of a lot better than moving in with her under the pretense that you'll "get over it" and move on. If I were her, I would end up hating you if you did that... if I found out later that you liked me (and believe me, she's a woman; she'll find out. Never doubt that fact.)
You cannot be responsible for her, including her feelings and reactions, in this situation. You can only be responsible for yourself and what you want. So either do it, or walk away. But do NOT move in with her without telling her how you feel.
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And think not you can direct the course of Love;
for Love, if it finds you worthy, directs your course.
--Khalil Gibran
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