Tilted Cat Head
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Originally Posted by thed00t
True, and that's how I live my life to be honest. Like I said, the big thing holding ME back isn't me. It's my respect for her. Let me explain:
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How noble. It is you. It's all about you. See if you disrespect what you think is her, then you'll feel bad.
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Put yourself in her shoes for a second. She's very attracted to someone she isn't going to get. She's planning on becomming roomates with me. Suddenly I tell her she's the bee's knees and now she has a bunch of complicated drama in her life she didn't ask for. Is that fair to her?
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So to hold your dick in your hand, that's fair to you? To possibly miss out on a good relationship? You'll never know until you try. If you are in the friend zone, then accept it and stop holding a candle for her which ultimately most people cannot and will not do that. Most just accept the friendship as is without risking it because it's better to be close to her in some fashion then to not be at all.
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When I put myself in her position, I'm not sure I'd want someone else dropping a bomb like that. But then again, I wouldn't know unless it happened and who it was. These are the issues I really have, not the balls to tell her. Which is why I'm soliciting experiences from this forum. I don't need a cheer leading squad to get me pumped up to go tell her. I'd like to hear from people who have been in the same situation so I can learn from what happened to them.
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Sorry, I still see it as you don't have the balls to tell her and the respect thing is just another excuse that you can project onto her as a reason to not act.
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Yes it is true that only she will know how she'll react. And that everyone is different and each situation is going to be unique. And what happened to someone else may not reflect what is going to happen in my situation. Ok, I get the point. But I still think I have to learn from other people's experiences.
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Sure, but you can easily already distill down the answers into postive and negative experiences. You're looking for nuances that may help you "soften the blow" so to speak, since you're ultimately hoping for a positive answer. If you are hoping for a negative answer, then again the balls come into question and you are again, projecting onto her as an excuse.
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