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Originally Posted by thed00t
You're right. I don't have a problem with the how or what when it comes to the communication. For me it boils down to I need to decide wether or not I even should. It is one of those cases where I don't feel like losing her as a friend just to risk having a relationship. I can move on if I have to. I'm not going to put my life on hold for this, but I still think she is worth chasing but not at the cost of our friendship. Which is why what I really want to see from you guys is past personal experiences where you told someone in a similar situation and how it worked out for you. Or if you've been told by someone and how you reacted. The latter would probably be more valuable for me because my main concern is how she feels about my buddy.
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But that's the rub, in order to advance you have to take a risk. It doesn't matter which side of the equation the risk falls, either you risk the friendship or you risk the fact you "could have" or "should have" yet will never know.
You want someone else to express their experiences so that you'll assuage your own feelings as to which side you'll actually pick, but ultimately you'll never know until you take an action. As Sultana states, only the girl will know. No one else.
I can't vote in the above poll because I've had it work out and not work out.
For me, I've tried to make the change only to find it unrequited love. We no longer were friends.
Another time, it was simple as taking the risk and the plunge. After several years of friendship, now she's my wife.
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Last edited by Cynthetiq; 06-27-2006 at 09:28 AM..
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