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Originally Posted by ktthequeen
Just listen and say "yeah" or maybe "uh-huh", or if he wants to get more involved in the topic, say SOMETHING constructive. Nothing much.
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so then why aren't you expressing that to him?
but see again, he doesn't know what that SOMETHING is that is constructive, what he possibly thinks could be constructive could potentially be a land mine for you.
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after he said something that inadvertantly made me uncomfortable.
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To be fair how will he know what something could be that makes you uncomfortable? In situations where I am not socialized for or well versed for I either withdraw into silence or complete avoidance.
I never knew what I could or could not say with this particular lady. I never knew what would or wouldn't set her off emotionally. Sometimes it would be fine one time, and the next it wasn't. It made it very challenging.
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