Originally Posted by Spaz007

I don't think it is right to talk with someone you have been seeing for only 6 months about this kind of topic. Also, if you have only seen him 6 times that makes matters worse. One thing men hate is to hear about their SO's having sex. Sure it's cool and we pretend not to care but I think the majority of men tune out for a bit then come back in once the story is over, then laugh it off.

On top of this, you are talking about a painful memory I know, I have my share of them. He could take it as you are telling him that you would not like sex right now because you have pain over it, or that you want him to find the people who did this to you and make them pay, or maybe he has been raped and he is trying to forget himself; how are you to know, it's only been 6 months.

Painful things happened in my life. I'm going on 2 years with my girl and only now am I letting my problems out. Only now are we responsible to handle each others problems. Things take time, have fun. If it was the 6th time I met my girl and I told her about me getting raped she would have freaked. Now, she cares for me and she can cope and understands that I am talking natively with her and that there is no secret code in my story. Likewise goes for her now I can relate and we can live for each other not live in or old memories, but make new ones together.