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JustJess · 06-26-2006, 10:51 AM

Okay, everyone, HANG ON a second.

1. Doesn't sound like KT wants to use SO for a therapist, it just sounds like she wants to be able to discuss things that come up in relation to her history without him clamming up/freaking out. Fair enough.

2. I'm betting you already know you need some professional support. Don't be shy now, y'hear?

3. What the hell is all this "as a man it makes me uncomfortable" crap? You know what? Too bad. Rape sucks. No one likes to talk about it, no one likes to be confronted with this. And IT IN NO WAY COMPARES TO SOMEONE'S REGULAR SEXUAL HISTORY, IT IS COMPLETELY DIFFERENT AND SHE WOULD BE A FOOL TO NOT BE HONEST ABOUT BEING RAPED WITH A PERSON SHE INTENDS TO BE INTIMATE WITH. It's too important, and it's too fucking scary, to NOT be honest about. And how dare you people even put it in the same boat as "guys don't like to know you've slept around" bullshit misogyny?

4. 6 months is too soon? Too fucking bad. If he can't handle it now, he never will and she deserves more. You boys are fucking this one up big time, you big pussies.

5. That being said, Ratbastid is, as usual, totally on point about the average good man just wanting to fix what's wrong. Yes, do let him know that you're just venting frustrations. They happen to relate to people not getting that you need some distance from the situation.

6. I'd move from the area too. Location memories are fucking hard to disassociate, and that makes sense to me. But don't go alone. FYI... the memories will eventually stop screaming, but there will always be echos. But you knew that.

*smooches* KT, you're going to be okay.

06-26-2006, 10:51 AM	#12 (permalink)
JustJess Unencapsulated Location: Kittyville	Okay, everyone, HANG ON a second. 1. Doesn't sound like KT wants to use SO for a therapist, it just sounds like she wants to be able to discuss things that come up in relation to her history without him clamming up/freaking out. Fair enough. 2. I'm betting you already know you need some professional support. Don't be shy now, y'hear? 3. What the hell is all this "as a man it makes me uncomfortable" crap? You know what? Too bad. Rape sucks. No one likes to talk about it, no one likes to be confronted with this. And IT IN NO WAY COMPARES TO SOMEONE'S REGULAR SEXUAL HISTORY, IT IS COMPLETELY DIFFERENT AND SHE WOULD BE A FOOL TO NOT BE HONEST ABOUT BEING RAPED WITH A PERSON SHE INTENDS TO BE INTIMATE WITH. It's too important, and it's too fucking scary, to NOT be honest about. And how dare you people even put it in the same boat as "guys don't like to know you've slept around" bullshit misogyny? 4. 6 months is too soon? Too fucking bad. If he can't handle it now, he never will and she deserves more. You boys are fucking this one up big time, you big pussies. 5. That being said, Ratbastid is, as usual, totally on point about the average good man just wanting to fix what's wrong. Yes, do let him know that you're just venting frustrations. They happen to relate to people not getting that you need some distance from the situation. 6. I'd move from the area too. Location memories are fucking hard to disassociate, and that makes sense to me. But don't go alone. FYI... the memories will eventually stop screaming, but there will always be echos. But you knew that. smooches KT, you're going to be okay. __________________ My heart knows me better than I know myself, so I'm gonna let it do all the talkin'.