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Ratbastid nailed it -- in conversation, men want to say the solutions, women want to console. The problem is that men typically don't want to be consoled and women typically don't want to be fixed.
On the larger issue, I agree that this is something you should be seeing a professional for. You can't expect a guy you're dating to be an expert at whatever brand of pyschology you need. Pyschologists have years of schooling to deal with things just like this.
I know that I'd have a difficult time finding a tool in my toolbox to deal with a problem like this. Rape makes me incredibly uncomfortable, and I'm not the best at consoling.
You can talk to him about it, but don't go in expecting that he's going to be able to listen with an open mind. I bet it's hard for you to talk about it - it's likely even harder for him to listen to it.
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