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Nemi · 06-16-2006, 12:31 AM

Thank you everyone for your input.

Some few things:
- Note: that boss is in his early 50s and I am 25. So my boyfriend couldn't understand why someone in his early 50s would attract me.
- I don't think anything would have happened in that hotel room in Philippines. It's just that I feel guilty that I did enjoy conversations with because of their smoothness.
- Also I think that emotional closeness was something I was really craving with my boyfriend and it's not really possible with so many fights and a long distance relationship.
- I read some few things and had started wondering whether it was an 'emotional affair'. No, it wasn't but I think there are lines of distinction that makes one believe certain things.

Maleficent - to your questions:
1. I met my boyfriend in 2001, met him for 2 weeks in 2002. And since 2002, I haven't met him. I will meet him in 3 days. Yes, I know the rest of the relationship has been mostly emails (around 3,000 both his and mine), being online and phone cards.

2. I met him in a chat room in 2001, he decided to come and meet me in my ctry (You guessed right, I am not from N.America but have lived there nearly 4 years for studies and work).

3. So we have actually been together in the same place for only 2 weeks in my home country.

4. We are both of Indian origin. I am not from India though but he is. So yes, there is an element of culture but I also think it's my poor communication skills and my unwillingness to face certain issues with him. I thought he was quite liberal and open on several issues....but yes, I sometimes sense it's also the personality more than the culture part.

5. As for leaving him, as it was advised by some of u, I don't think it makes sense in that issues and grievances would still be prepared in any other relationship. As for the 5 yr waiting, I wanted to wait because I loved him and still do. It is just that a certain point, unsure of myself and unsure of several aspects of my life, I questioned whether he was the One for me. And whether he indeed wanted me.

6. I will know that soon. Yes, I am really excited to see him and am waiting to fight and have fun with him.

06-16-2006, 12:31 AM	#7 (permalink)
Nemi Upright	Thank you everyone for your input. Some few things: - Note: that boss is in his early 50s and I am 25. So my boyfriend couldn't understand why someone in his early 50s would attract me. - I don't think anything would have happened in that hotel room in Philippines. It's just that I feel guilty that I did enjoy conversations with because of their smoothness. - Also I think that emotional closeness was something I was really craving with my boyfriend and it's not really possible with so many fights and a long distance relationship. - I read some few things and had started wondering whether it was an 'emotional affair'. No, it wasn't but I think there are lines of distinction that makes one believe certain things. Maleficent - to your questions: 1. I met my boyfriend in 2001, met him for 2 weeks in 2002. And since 2002, I haven't met him. I will meet him in 3 days. Yes, I know the rest of the relationship has been mostly emails (around 3,000 both his and mine), being online and phone cards. 2. I met him in a chat room in 2001, he decided to come and meet me in my ctry (You guessed right, I am not from N.America but have lived there nearly 4 years for studies and work). 3. So we have actually been together in the same place for only 2 weeks in my home country. 4. We are both of Indian origin. I am not from India though but he is. So yes, there is an element of culture but I also think it's my poor communication skills and my unwillingness to face certain issues with him. I thought he was quite liberal and open on several issues....but yes, I sometimes sense it's also the personality more than the culture part. 5. As for leaving him, as it was advised by some of u, I don't think it makes sense in that issues and grievances would still be prepared in any other relationship. As for the 5 yr waiting, I wanted to wait because I loved him and still do. It is just that a certain point, unsure of myself and unsure of several aspects of my life, I questioned whether he was the One for me. And whether he indeed wanted me. 6. I will know that soon. Yes, I am really excited to see him and am waiting to fight and have fun with him.