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JustJess · 06-14-2006, 05:34 AM

Madp: Don't worry about age, as we've all mentioned. If you're looking for a more casual relationship at this time, then you're probably looking in the right age group. The mid-20's range is *more likely* (note ** = generalization only) to be comfortable with a casual relationship and all that entails. This means that you may wish to be more flexible in how you want the pattern of your relationship to go. Women who are happy with the routine you laid out are going to be more interested in a steadier relationship, generally.

But more importantly, and more simply: just be honest about what you're looking for when you begin dating a woman. We're practical creatures more often than not; if your situation sounds interesting, we'll stick around until it doesn't suit anymore. If it doesn't, we'll probably thank you for being honest and move on. (At least, I would.)

Also... just on a pure romantic's heart note... I wouldn't assume that's all you want right now. Who knows what you want after you meet someone exciting?

Try to be flexible about things for the moment, and remember that at 38, you know more about yourself and what you want (at least you should) than the average person in their mid-20's. But that doesn't mean your way is the right way.... or that there's not a lot of things in common anyway.

Be zen, man - empty yourself of expectations and you will not be disappointed.

Oh, and until my husband... I tended to date men 4-12 years older... I had a lot more in my head than the other teens/early 20's something folks.

06-14-2006, 05:34 AM	#16 (permalink)
JustJess Unencapsulated Location: Kittyville	Madp: Don't worry about age, as we've all mentioned. If you're looking for a more casual relationship at this time, then you're probably looking in the right age group. The mid-20's range is more likely (note ** = generalization only) to be comfortable with a casual relationship and all that entails. This means that you may wish to be more flexible in how you want the pattern of your relationship to go. Women who are happy with the routine you laid out are going to be more interested in a steadier relationship, generally. But more importantly, and more simply: just be honest about what you're looking for when you begin dating a woman. We're practical creatures more often than not; if your situation sounds interesting, we'll stick around until it doesn't suit anymore. If it doesn't, we'll probably thank you for being honest and move on. (At least, I would.) Also... just on a pure romantic's heart note... I wouldn't assume that's all you want right now. Who knows what you want after you meet someone exciting? Try to be flexible about things for the moment, and remember that at 38, you know more about yourself and what you want (at least you should) than the average person in their mid-20's. But that doesn't mean your way is the right way.... or that there's not a lot of things in common anyway. Be zen, man - empty yourself of expectations and you will not be disappointed. Oh, and until my husband... I tended to date men 4-12 years older... I had a lot more in my head than the other teens/early 20's something folks. __________________ My heart knows me better than I know myself, so I'm gonna let it do all the talkin'.