Sage

Once upon a time I had a BF that got offended when I wasn't "glued at the butt" with him. Our relationship sucked, we were constanly driving each other nuts, arguing all the time, etc.

I think there's two different ways of approaching being together. The first way, which is the way that Martel and I do it, is loving each other so much that you want to spend time together and enrich each others lives, but you also realize that it's a big world and sometimes you have to be apart. Work, school, whatever. When you're not together it's cool, you have a good time, you enjoy yourself, then you come home and cuddle with your SO and relate what you did that day.

The second way, and the way that it seems like your SO is relating to you taboo, is "OMG IF MY SO DOESN'T WANT TO SPEND EVERY SECOND WITH ME IT MEANS THEY DON'T LOVE ME OMG!" This is a very negative thought, which comes from being insecure and from having issues with trusting the other party in the relationship. Perhaps this insecurity can be overcome, perhaps not. You're still with that guy with the kid and the ex wife, right? Didn't his ex like, walk all the hell over him? That's probably where his insecurity comes from. In my expierence it's very hard to stick with someone who is insecure in the relationship as it leads to a LOT of tension and a LOT of headache. You can't give him security, he has to learn it himself. You can be there for him and let him know how much you love him, but if it ever gets to the point you're saying "How can I miss you if you don't go away?" I suggest you break up then and there. If I had done that it would have saved me half a year of heartache.

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