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Thank you for all of your replies.
Yes, she is probably manipulative. I believe that how girls treat their ex-boyfriends shows alot about how they'll treat their current boyfriend, especially if things go bad. I know she has manipulated her ex into believing that she wasn't seeing anyone else. How do I even know that he knows hes her ex? Facebook and Myspace...
How am I different from other guys? One, shes never had a relationship with someone who was geographically near her. All of them have been an hour away by a car she didn't have. She never saw these boyfriends. Two, she got STD tested and went on the pill, though we still use condoms. Other guys in the past have asked her to go on it and she never would until now. Our interaction has been a completely new type of relationship for her. Not saying that I believe I'm somehow super special or that she doesn't have the capability to cheat on me, just that we have a new type of interaction.
I don't think shes remorseless about cheating, but I think she just internalizes it and attempts to ignore it. She hates herself for destroying the trust of others, and she doesn't know why she did it. She used to be depressed and cut herself and that may be a result of her internalized self loathing. Shes also very insecure despite the fact that she is attractive, interesting, and generally a good person. I think her insecurity may also drive her to cheat, to get self validation.
This may not even be an issue, as she will most likely be moving across the country in 2 months, and I won't even see her again for another month. I'm just going to see what happens. If I start to get jealous about anything I'll just end it.
Aside: Yes I feel bad about nailing some other dude's girlfriend. I feel less bad because she wasn't really his anymore anyways, but I still feel bad about it. In the future I will abstain from such activities.
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