raeanna74

Well as to what my daughter told me. She was not totally aware that I had 'tattled' on the kids earlier yesterday. She was still asleep when I found the contraband and turned it over. So I don't believe she was making up the 'Tattletale' name calling the first time. The second time it happened I heard it myself. The third time was to a stranger to these kids and my brother had no idea what was going on when he told me of it.

As for the two that are the most aggresive - they are ages 5 and 9. The rest of the kids ARE older but the ones that can be the meanest are the closest in age to my daughter. That in particular makes it hard to deal with. One might hope that they'd stick up for their peers but instead they turn on them.

I'm trying to 'tutor' my daughter to stand up for herself. Not by being a bully back but by speaking up and telling them to stop doing certain things or by getting up and leaving instead of putting up with the bullying just so she can 'play' with them.

Also - the 5 yr old is a boy who was 'playing' at being my daughter's boyfriend just the day before last. In fact he was hugging her and tickling her and snuggling. I suggested they do something else which they did but it was uncomfortable for me to see the adult body language of the two of them. I don't understand how he can go from being best friends to utter enemies with no personal offenses made in the interum.

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