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Originally Posted by highthief
It's wrong, generally, to yell at other people's kids. Sometimes, when a serious situation occurs, OK (say, involving safety) but you know, yelling at kids, your own or someone else's, is generally not cool. Talking to them calmly to instruct them not to do something, talking to their parents, that's fine.
But it also sounds a bit like you are allowing the kids to run rampant. I mean, you're complaining about the kids taking your stuff from your house and your yard as if you have no control over this happening, when, in fact, you have complete control.
As for your child, of course is natural to want to protect her, but kids are kids, they pick on each other one day and are best friends the next, it is their nature, especially in groups.
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I do not allow the kids to run rampant. When I catch them in my fridge, or abusing my daughter's swingset or things I correct it. I have spoken to the parents. Mom from family C is usually quick to correct any problem with the kids. Dad from family A is often quick as well. I've been there watching the kids play, watching family B's kids being rude to my daughter and parents from family B can be watching their kids at the same time and say NOTHING. Sometimes they say something but not always. When the parents from family B are there I don't correct their kids usually unless all of the kids are getting into the same trouble but I will call my daughter to me when the kids are being rude or mean to her. The parents don't even seem to realize their kids are that rude or mean most of the time. They're just being funny, or cute, or wild, or - whatever.
I have said that I shouldn't have yelled. But yet the parents did not seem to care and I was already worn thin watching this drama. I WILL defend my child, leave no doubt about that.
edit - one more thing. These particular kids whom I yelled at. I caught them last week, they'd been playing nicely in our back yard. My daughter was swinging on the bar on the swing, when suddenly, these two kids took punches at my daughter's belly and then ran. They were laughing when she ran into the house and to me. I think they believed it was funny to see her cry.