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thespian86 · 06-10-2006, 06:11 AM

I've been in a position like this before and also, the other position.

Position One; being with the cheater. I have dated a cheater and it was totally unsucessful. Yes, life has some hard discisions but do you really want to be with someone who is weak that she cannot control her own life, or on the other hand someone who is so strong that she would create elaborate lies to control you and her current existing beau? I would say no. Life with a cheater is always a disapointment and a heartbreak.

Position two: being the cheater. I am the anti cheater and found myself in a bad place emotionally during a drought of depression which I have battle quite seriously my whole life. In this case I had taken extra medication (whoopsie number one) to try to level myself out and then resorted to drinking everything in sight at the cast party that evening (it was during our last show of a six week run in which I was playing my first professional lead role... I was very attached and thought I would be able to handle it). I had been dating a student who was majoring in journalism who was very eccentric and very dark on my year off from university while I applied and were turned down by company after school after program. I was very bored and confused as to why I had ever been in the relationship but wouldn't let go because of overwhelming safty blanket issues attached to her. But at the cast party I had gotten very drunk, very easily thanks to the devil that is Paxil, and thus began one of the worst nights of my life as a NON single man. I had been talking to one of the actresses when suddenly I was kissing her. and Kissing lead to stretching out on the couch and continuing and before it progressed I stoped. That night continued with more girls, most of them I took advantage of the fact that they looked up to me as a leader and as a talant. I left the next day, actually curled up at the feet of my best friend who I didn't do anything with and drove home and broke it off with her. I'm not making excuses, I did cheat, and nothing went past groping and drunken, yet heated, kisses. All the same it was a one time thing that I was disgusted with, and still am today.

Between the two situations I would say that you need to decide, realistically, wether or not this girl is situation # 1 or situation #2. My opinion, which really should be taken with a grain of salt like everyone here, is that she is a situation number 1. She seems to be very concious of her cheating, very unwilling to break any ties, makes mounds upon mounds of excuses, and does it look good for you that she is promising another man (who she apprently has no feelings for) commitment when she is not promising you that herself? Sounds extra fishy and if I were in your position I would go looking elsewhere.

06-10-2006, 06:11 AM	#9 (permalink)
thespian86 change is hard. Location: the green room.	I've been in a position like this before and also, the other position. Position One; being with the cheater. I have dated a cheater and it was totally unsucessful. Yes, life has some hard discisions but do you really want to be with someone who is weak that she cannot control her own life, or on the other hand someone who is so strong that she would create elaborate lies to control you and her current existing beau? I would say no. Life with a cheater is always a disapointment and a heartbreak. Position two: being the cheater. I am the anti cheater and found myself in a bad place emotionally during a drought of depression which I have battle quite seriously my whole life. In this case I had taken extra medication (whoopsie number one) to try to level myself out and then resorted to drinking everything in sight at the cast party that evening (it was during our last show of a six week run in which I was playing my first professional lead role... I was very attached and thought I would be able to handle it). I had been dating a student who was majoring in journalism who was very eccentric and very dark on my year off from university while I applied and were turned down by company after school after program. I was very bored and confused as to why I had ever been in the relationship but wouldn't let go because of overwhelming safty blanket issues attached to her. But at the cast party I had gotten very drunk, very easily thanks to the devil that is Paxil, and thus began one of the worst nights of my life as a NON single man. I had been talking to one of the actresses when suddenly I was kissing her. and Kissing lead to stretching out on the couch and continuing and before it progressed I stoped. That night continued with more girls, most of them I took advantage of the fact that they looked up to me as a leader and as a talant. I left the next day, actually curled up at the feet of my best friend who I didn't do anything with and drove home and broke it off with her. I'm not making excuses, I did cheat, and nothing went past groping and drunken, yet heated, kisses. All the same it was a one time thing that I was disgusted with, and still am today. Between the two situations I would say that you need to decide, realistically, wether or not this girl is situation # 1 or situation #2. My opinion, which really should be taken with a grain of salt like everyone here, is that she is a situation number 1. She seems to be very concious of her cheating, very unwilling to break any ties, makes mounds upon mounds of excuses, and does it look good for you that she is promising another man (who she apprently has no feelings for) commitment when she is not promising you that herself? Sounds extra fishy and if I were in your position I would go looking elsewhere. __________________ EX: Whats new? ME: I officially love coffee more then you now. EX: uh... ME: So, not much.