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Hey all,
I haven't read all the responses so bear with me.
From what i read, you think that I display my hatred towards my ex (the divorce was final some six months ago) in front of my son. I'd like to correct this. I DO hate him, but i don't display this in front of my son...I even show my son pictures of his father and taught him his name, etc...The hatred is just inside and he's the one who starts arguments. My mom was really concerned becasue we told my son that his father will come and he has to go to him and he started saying "No, with grandpa"..He doesn't want to go outside if his father will take him...We didn't instill this in him..my son just suddenly said that. I was surprised too because he usually goes willingly to his father.
The reason we told his father that my son's afriad of him is because it's true...the moment he sees him in public he leaps and does what he says..he's even afraid to cry in front of him.
Oh, and I spotted a bruise on my son's leg last night after he came form his father. It looks like a sting. Today it's swollen and has a dark bump, but it deosn't hurt him. I can't say it's abuse, but it sure looks like neglect.
If he doesn't have time for him, then he shouldn't take him...that's all we ask..he shouldn't be pressured to take his son just to "show him off" to his friends and show that h'es a good father. Plus, he always comes with a friend and take my son to public gatherings or makes his visits to friends and meetings (he even works at the times he takes my son) at the times that he takes my son.
He also never calls to check on him. Last week, we told him that my son was sick and he didn't even call to check on him. He didn't even call in his birthday.
So, h'es not exactly a good father figure but i never showed this to my son. My mom was really concerned..she even gave ihm advice on how to make his son love him instead of fear him,lol..so it wasn't an attack..but he twisted it and made it an attack. Even if we speak to him politely, he has to yell and accuse us of attacking him.
For example, I todl him today to ask his lawyer if he's supposed to tell us where he takes my son and he just said "No, I wont even ask him"..I just said "Ok, thank you..bye".
Just wanted ot clear this up and show you the whole pic.
I'll be back with more replies after reading the rest of the posts.
Thanks all.
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