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Originally Posted by pan6467
I have to agree with my better half here. There are nights when I can pump and pump for an hour and I won't orgasm. She eventually gets over the thrill and it starts hurting her so I stop....
True love making is sharing, caring and pleasing..... making your partner feel that he/she is the most important person in your life. When you do that..... you realize that SEX is just an act, but love making is far better, more rewarding and builds your confidence in ways just the act never can.
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Well in actuality, I haven't orgasmed with her yet. I've always been one to take forever in bed for some reason. Also, condoms make a huge difference. I really don't enjoy them at all, but ya gotta use 'em y'know. With my ex, we used to go at it without a condom and those were the most enjoyable sexual experiences I've ever had. But we were together and monogamous (until she cheated on me
). This new girl is actually in an open relationship with someone else, and we're just having fun together. I HAVE to wear a hat.
And yes, there is a big difference between "sex" and "making love." I experienced that myself years ago, and the same thing now with this new woman. I'm not in love with her, so I focus more on the fact that I'm getting some and how it's my duty as her bed partner to satisfy her. With my ex, everything just happened naturally. We loved sex so much, that back in high school when we started, we kept count. In three months we decided to stop counting at 100. We were together for over a year, and saw each other for 7 months after we broke up. Imagine how many times that was.
So y'all think it's performance anxiety? I might as well read up on it so I can understand it as much as possible. I was also thinking maybe if I start getting more exercise, I might see some changes in my libido. Being busy all the time often leaves me deciding whether I want to spend my only free time resting, being social, or playing basketball. Sun's out today; I might hit up the beach and do just that.
Thank you all for your supporting and kind words. Knowing that it's a common occurrence really changes my overall perspective on the situation. I still don't want it ever to happen again, though. So time for me to go read up on it! See ya!