I agree with willravel that a 2.5 year old child throwing a tantrum when he has to leave his mother isn't entirely abnormal. If there are other signs that there is something wrong, you should document everything as has been suggested. However, if you are basing you concern about your child just on this tantrum, you might want to step back a bit.
In your initial post you mention the incident below:
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We asked his father why he’s afraid of him and he kept on getting defensive and saying that he’s in a hurry and doesn’t have time. So, we told him if he doesn’t have time, why are you taking your son? We asked him where he takes him and he refused to answer and said that it’s not our business where he goes and who he sees. Is this true?
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Unless there is further salient information that you have not included, it sounds like you and your parents verbally attacked your ex-husband as he picked up your son. Your son had a temper tantrum and you and your parents imply that your ex-husband is doing something that should cause your son to fear him. As willravel and others suggested, such a tantrum may not be abnormal. Your son's behavior could be just as much a surprise to your husband as it was to you. If my child had such a tantrum in the same situation, I would be confused and hurt. If my ex-wife and former parents-in law started accusing me of doing something to my child, I would get defensive. So, some of your husband's hostile behavior in that particular situation may have been related to the way that you interact with him. (Some of it may be related to who he is as well).
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Originally Posted by maleficent
You are tied to this man for the next 15.5 years at the very minimum because of your child. You need to figure out a way to work together, both you and him. It's not in the child's best interest if mommy and daddy can't get along. the kid just gets put in the middle and well ... that's not fair to the child.
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This is a good point. I don't know your marital history, or the history of your son's interaction with his father. Considering that you will have to deal with your ex-husband at least until your son reaches adulthood, you need to figure out strategies to work with your husband to raise your son. Part of those strategies may need to include efforts to make the transitions to your son's time with his father as smooth as possible (even if your ex is an ass).
If you are concerned about abuse, you should definitely document and definitely take appropriate actions to ensure the safety of your son. If you don't think that abuse is occuring, you should do your best to interact with your husband in as pleasant a manner as possible (as should he, of course).
Disclaimer: I'm just giving my opinion. Take it with a grain of salt.