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Originally Posted by hundove
Hey all,
Thanks for the wonderful advice.
Thanks so much Willravel for the help and concern.
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You have your son's best interest in mind. That makes you tops in my book.
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Originally Posted by hundove
As for bruises, my son always gets bruised b/c he's so active so he has alot of marks on his hands and elbows because he's always running and tripping, so I can't really tell if it's a normal mark all kids get or a form of abuse, but I don't think that he'd abuse him.
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Hmmm...well just the same, you might want to ask, "Did you fall?" or something every once in a while.
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Originally Posted by hundove
I think it's more a case of neglect and also emotional abuse or that my son feels abandoned..I don't even think he's free for him..I think he does all his errands at the time he takes my son, because many people spot my son with him (some of his customers, etc.).
His father is a stranger to him..he doesn't act with him as he does with me or his grandparents.
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I see. So a combination of verbal and emotional abuse with neglect might be what we're looking at. The situation you described before could be symptomatic of what you think. The absolute best thing for him now is to get emotional and verbal consistency from you, the mom. If your ex is in some way reasonable, you might suggest talking to someone about the seperation and also raising a son without a wife (or in this case as a semi-independant parent). A 2 year old might not be ready for a psychologist, but if the problem seems to persist, then you might consider it a few years down the line.
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Originally Posted by hundove
As for the time we were together, my ex did show fury, and he did hit me once in front of him but that was a long time ago. Think he still recalls that incident?
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Traumatic events can sometimes stay in memory for a lifetime. That event could have had a very negative effect on your son. I'm glad you're no longer in a dangerous situation.
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Originally Posted by hundove
I do recall him once throwing stuff but it wasn't habitual or alot. But he never hit his son around me.
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Are you sure that he would never hit your son?