Hello all,
Some of you may be familiar with my issue that i'm a divorced mother with a 2.5 yr old. And that he's very aggressive.
Well, today he got really hystercial once we told him that his father is coming to take him today.
My son was just home from being outside and he loves being outside and loves his grandpa. Anyway, he started crying and pleading to stay outside.
We told him that his father is coming and will take him outside so he's got to come inside and get dressed so he can go outside with his father. He started screaming and breaking down and crying so hard that he was having trouble breathing (you know when you cry so much and you start crying and breathing hard at the same time? I've always had that as a kid). He was uncontrallable. I couldn't even get a hold of him to carry him and so I tried and got a hold of him while he's trying to break free and screaming.
So, when his father came I told him that he refuses to go out to him. The father told me to get him so I got him after catching him while he was screaming and once he saw his father he ran to his car without even looking at his father. his father told him to come next to him and he did it dutifully (he's so afraid of his father). then he demanded a kiss from his him and he gave it willingly (notice h'es not the type that listen so it seems he's afraid of his father..he always was).
So, his father otld him to go inside and let me dress him so he went inside but refused to be changed and ran after his grandpa and demanded to go out and his grandpa was heading him to the direction of his father and he's refuse to go in his fathe'r direction and kept going the opposite side, showing that he doesn't want to go to his father.
We asked his father why he’s afraid of him and he kept on getting defensive and saying that he’s in a hurry and doesn’t have time. So, we told him if he doesn’t have time, why are you taking your son? We asked him where he takes him and he refused to answer and said that it’s not our business where he goes and who he sees. Is this true?
Please, what should I do? This ex is so hard to deal with. I cannot get two words of sense spoken out of him and part of my son’s life is clueless to me (the part when he’s with his father)…and I need to know in order to see why he’s behaving this way and why he’s afraid of his father.
Do I have a right to know where his father takes him and who he sees and interacts with?
I’m really upset right now and do not know who to turn to
Thanks for any help and please forgive me for all my complaining.