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ngdawg · 06-08-2006, 10:51 AM

I find it kind of fascinating that when Sultana said 'with sincerity', JinnKai asked 'how do you accomplish this?' By not keeping silent would be my response.
When someone does something you find nice, extraordinary or awe-inspiring, speak up!
If a friend shows their caring toward you, a sincere show of appreciation for their actions is in order.
I too was not raised in a 'praising' environment; in fact, my father was pretty stern, never ever condescending and, while he always helped us out, he expected results. My mom was a disciplinarian and once we were older kids, never got to our level and 'played' with us, something my dad loved to do( although he never quite left the 'instruction' behind).
In a total turn around from my background, I never forego a moment to tell those I love that I love them; I never leave a 'thank you' unsaid-even to strangers. And I speak my mind, even if later on I find myself slapping my forehead for doing so.
We all say or do stupid things-it's human. Overthinking before we do anything at all stifles us. I just go by the very simple adage: No one ever really died from embarrassment. Had I known this at 16 I most probably would not have drifted aimlessly for so long until now I don't know which way to go in life. But I'm still learning and those that have shown they care enough to support and help me know how wonderful I think they are.

06-08-2006, 10:51 AM	#14 (permalink)
ngdawg peekaboo Location: on the back, bitch	I find it kind of fascinating that when Sultana said 'with sincerity', JinnKai asked 'how do you accomplish this?' By not keeping silent would be my response. When someone does something you find nice, extraordinary or awe-inspiring, speak up! If a friend shows their caring toward you, a sincere show of appreciation for their actions is in order. I too was not raised in a 'praising' environment; in fact, my father was pretty stern, never ever condescending and, while he always helped us out, he expected results. My mom was a disciplinarian and once we were older kids, never got to our level and 'played' with us, something my dad loved to do( although he never quite left the 'instruction' behind). In a total turn around from my background, I never forego a moment to tell those I love that I love them; I never leave a 'thank you' unsaid-even to strangers. And I speak my mind, even if later on I find myself slapping my forehead for doing so. We all say or do stupid things-it's human. Overthinking before we do anything at all stifles us. I just go by the very simple adage: No one ever really died from embarrassment. Had I known this at 16 I most probably would not have drifted aimlessly for so long until now I don't know which way to go in life. But I'm still learning and those that have shown they care enough to support and help me know how wonderful I think they are. __________________ Don't blame me. I didn't vote for either of'em.