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Originally Posted by sportswidow05
I am one of those who hardly ever, IF ever, was praised. I never knew if anything I did was good enough or right. Now, as an adult, I still doubt if things I am doing are right or good enough. For example, any post I reply to, many decisions I make, these kinds of things create stress from wondering if I am doing or saying the right thing. Perhaps this lack of praise as a child has led to some of my self-doubt as an adult. I find, at times, I will do or say things just to find out how people feel, looking for approval I might not have gotten before.
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Wow! This sounds just like me.
I'm always afraid that a decision I make will be wrong, even the smallest decisions. I was praised a little bit as a child, but not to a great extent. I learned more of what NOT to do vs. what to do. I don't take praise very well, not really knowing how to respond. I'm trying to do better and make myself accept it, even if I think it wasn't that big of a deal, or doesn't warrant such attentions.
On the other hand, I think I give praise freely, but always with sincerity. I won't gush if it doesn't deserve gushing. I say "Thank you" a lot, mostly because I know I like it when it is said to me. But again, only if deserved. Otherwise, it loses it's value.