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Originally Posted by JinnKai
It seems so fake when someone praises me for doing an "EXCELLENT JOB!!" on something that took me almost no effort.
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Why? What took almost no effort on
your part, may have been insurmountable to myself.
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Originally Posted by JinnKai
Typically, I only "praise" when I feel someone has done something exceptional, not when they're meeting normal requirements and achieving "average."
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Why? Children learn best when praised for doing that which they should be doing. Why should an adult be any different. There's absolutely nothing wrong with giving, and receiving, "warm fuzzies" now and again. It tends to make one feel...
appreciated. At the very least, it lets people know that they are not being taken for granted. And...best of all...it doesn't cost one red cent. Yup...it's
free
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Originally Posted by JinnKai
How do you know when someone needs to be praised/reinforced/told they're doing something right?
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You seldom
know. You just
do it. Don't
over do it (you'll come off as insincere)...but
do it. As I said before...it doesn't cost a thing.
Observation on
my part...you didn't get much praise growing up, did you? If I'm right, how did that make you feel? Wouldn't a pat on the back, and a "Good job, son", have been nice coming from Mom and Dad? It makes the work...
worthwhile.
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Originally Posted by JinnKai
How do you accomplish this?
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Are you
serious.
I hope not, but just in case...
You
MEAN it.
Not just..."Yeah, yeah, good job...whatever"...but actualy
mean it.