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Originally Posted by taboo
whenn you know how strong a bond you have with someone, meeting them after a very long time would be just mind-blowing..i think i would cry from happiness and all the emotions that would come back....
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That's more than just missing an ex and wondering how they are doing... that sounds more like something else you haven't resolved, to be honest. Applesauce made a very good point in saying that you are still in love with the person he was at the time, and not who he might have become since then... that was certainly the case for me, when it took me 3+ years of singlehood (in my early 20s!) to get over an ex. I finally wrote a letter to the person who existed in my head, compared it to the reality, and emerged from my fog.
I think it's normal to wonder how people from your past are doing, exes included, especially if it was an intense relationship. I think about them now and then, and even stayed in touch with one of them for a while (after about 4 years of silence)... but if I met one of them in person, I would not cry or feel all those crazy emotions. I would probably smile, enjoy seeing their face again (I must have found them attractive at some point, so I doubt that would have changed), ask some curious questions about how they've been and where they're going, exchange family/life news, tell them about how lucky I am to be with my current man... but otherwise I can't imagine feeling overly emotional. Those are the feelings I reserve for my current bf only; no one else deserves that kind of heart-attention from me, especially not a ghost from the past.
Sometimes it's better to cut things off cold and never go near them again, no matter how intense it was. Maybe especially when it was a more intense thing. That's my theory, at least. We would all be wrecks if we kept opening up the Pandora's Boxes of past relationships... they end for a reason.