Originally Posted by ratbastid

As is so very often the case, ono's right. It's time to talk.

Negotiation and discussion and honest, open communication are absolutely essential to this sort of thing working out.

Also, you mentioned she has "'unexercised' options". That doesn't necessarily mean it's a piece of cake to exercise those options. There's a hint of freedom and opportunity there, but communication is still going to be very very necessary.

I very strongly recommend you include both husbands in the conversation too. And encourage them to get out anything they have to say about it--any jealousy, envy (they're different), ANYTHING that's there for them. You want to deal with it now so it doesn't bubble up later. Which isn't to say it won't bubble up later, but when it does, it'll be in the context of open communication, and it can be dealt with.