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Originally Posted by lullay
I guess I posted my question because I have NO idea how to take this further. I mean, yes, I can see how the answer would seem obvious but I've never tried to decipher girls before, and I've never been stumped as to whether or not or how I should proceed in such a situation (I asked my now-husband out on our first date, and don't remember being half so worried/curious as I feel now).
Also, she talks about her past exploits like she was rather agressive in pursuing the ones she really liked. She acts flirty towards everyone, but has never made any kind of first move towards me. I mean, we've slept in the same bed while staying the night at her parents house (in the last 6 months) and it wasn't tense or remotely sexual at all. Some girls just want to be chased, and this may well be the case. I'm probably overanalyzing this whole situation, but like I said... I've never really done this before.
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I would imagine that her hesitation comes from the fact that you are such good friends. You have a long standing friendship that isn't based in anything sexual, and she is likely worried about ruining/losing that aspect. For example, you feel comfortable sleeping in the same bed now, but let's say you become physical with each other and later decide it doesn't work out. Now when you sleep in the same bed can you have that same level of comfort you have now, or will there be weird tension because of the past? That's something the two of you are just gonna have to talk about I think. And I would suggest it being a sober conversation this time. 
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