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My hubby and I chat with people all the time. We share nudy pics and even cyber. The only way it works is that we have complete honesty when we ask each other about stuff. If your guy is lying he either feels guilty about chatting with this girl, OR he's afraid that you will be upset if he has cybered with her.
You could tell him that you would not mind if he chats with a girl, or even cybers with her. You could tell him that you wouldn't even mind if he shared explicit pics with her (if you are ok with that). Then, personally, I would wait to see what happens. If you've laid the groundwork that you are ok with this and you don't hound him about it, then if all he's done is chat, cyber or share pics, in theory he may begin to feel more comfortable in admitting to his 'naughty' bits of fun. But just because he doesn't admit does not mean that he is guilty of anything more than a little cyber fun or even less. If he doesn't fess up after letting him know he's not in trouble for any internet fun, then I would confront him once again explaining that you fear dishonesty more than anything he may or may not have done online. If you can avoid it for now, don't tell him you've snooped at all because the distrust may cause him to be more secretive.
This is just how I'd work things. Good Luck with however you work this out.
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