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illdeviant · 05-26-2003, 12:31 PM

yea. i haven't really read through all of the posts, but i'm 18, and i think it's really easy for lotta the guys here to give feedback, but they don't know it till they've actually experienced it, you know? of course im assuming, but I dont think a lot of the guys are 5+ plus years into the marriage, let alone married ( i could be wrong)... but yea, i really think experience makes a big difference. so you should really think hardcore on their responses before taking it into consideration..

anyway. for what it's worth...like several people said already.. you and your wife HAD something in the beginning.. the lust and passion. and hopefully what followed was the COMpassion... until it dulled away to the point you are now. I think it's best to try to get back to the stage of compassion. and just understand that it's natural for ANY couple. no matter what they say to have more dulled feelings towards each other since the first they met. its inevitable. passion leads to levels of compassion. apparantly your at the lower level right now.

also think about the kids.. how your breakup would affecct them. i mean sure, they could turn out fine, but what if they didn't? you'd have to live with that.

times change, man. nowadays us kids have way different priorities and morals than you did back then. being that i was born and raised here, but by strict asian parents, im glad to be one of the few to have retained .. uh the values.. but realize im not knockin everyone out there, nor am i sayin im superior, but based on all the shootings and drug usage, the youth are goin down the drain. eh now im ranting. you make the connection.. although i doubt there is one with your situation.

ok . lastly. she just got out of a relationship and shes probably rebounding. and by making a rash stereotype (sorry for ladies this doesnt apply to) if shes as hot as u say she is, then her nice act is probably a facade. i mean technically, nowadays if you've got the looks, that's about all you need. many very attractive ladies have been bitches period. and its all the more easier for them to bounce around from guy to guy. and im sure some are sick enough to get a power trip outta gettin a guy to divorce only to dump him a week later... be careful, man. all i gotta say.

I really don't know if it was helpful, but i tried. theres apparantly not an ounce of organization in the post, buthell, it was a rant. hope it helps.
good luck.

05-26-2003, 12:31 PM	#20 (permalink)
illdeviant Crazy Location: Lawn Guyland	yea. i haven't really read through all of the posts, but i'm 18, and i think it's really easy for lotta the guys here to give feedback, but they don't know it till they've actually experienced it, you know? of course im assuming, but I dont think a lot of the guys are 5+ plus years into the marriage, let alone married ( i could be wrong)... but yea, i really think experience makes a big difference. so you should really think hardcore on their responses before taking it into consideration.. anyway. for what it's worth...like several people said already.. you and your wife HAD something in the beginning.. the lust and passion. and hopefully what followed was the COMpassion... until it dulled away to the point you are now. I think it's best to try to get back to the stage of compassion. and just understand that it's natural for ANY couple. no matter what they say to have more dulled feelings towards each other since the first they met. its inevitable. passion leads to levels of compassion. apparantly your at the lower level right now. also think about the kids.. how your breakup would affecct them. i mean sure, they could turn out fine, but what if they didn't? you'd have to live with that. times change, man. nowadays us kids have way different priorities and morals than you did back then. being that i was born and raised here, but by strict asian parents, im glad to be one of the few to have retained .. uh the values.. but realize im not knockin everyone out there, nor am i sayin im superior, but based on all the shootings and drug usage, the youth are goin down the drain. eh now im ranting. you make the connection.. although i doubt there is one with your situation. ok . lastly. she just got out of a relationship and shes probably rebounding. and by making a rash stereotype (sorry for ladies this doesnt apply to) if shes as hot as u say she is, then her nice act is probably a facade. i mean technically, nowadays if you've got the looks, that's about all you need. many very attractive ladies have been bitches period. and its all the more easier for them to bounce around from guy to guy. and im sure some are sick enough to get a power trip outta gettin a guy to divorce only to dump him a week later... be careful, man. all i gotta say. I really don't know if it was helpful, but i tried. theres apparantly not an ounce of organization in the post, buthell, it was a rant. hope it helps. good luck.