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Originally Posted by Plaid13
I have had the same friends for about 15 years. But if you really want to make lasting friends you cant really just expect to say hi to a nice stranger and hope it lasts. you need to have stuff in common. what you need is a hobby to share with someone. bike riding cars motorcycles fishing beating up clowns whatever. need a common ground to start with after you get that and you can BS about that for a long time and waste away the days you can build off of that. but the real question is just how many adults have real hobbies? Most people over the age of about 20 dont really seem to have any real hobbies that get them out of the house and meeting people. drinking dosnt count btw. Think about the sort of stuff older people do. Screw around with cars maybe but thats mostly a at home sort of thing not going to meet anyone in your own garage. go golfing? not very social at all there. Going to the bar is social but... cant really build much of a friendship off of something like that. not much to talk about there.
Basicly if you can meet a bunch of people that have the same hobbies as you then pick out the nice ones that you get along with then weed out the real lunitics and stick with the only mildy strange ones theres a good chance you will become good friends. The only real way for friends you meet at work to really last would be if you had something in common you could share other then work. Most people dont want to talk about or think about work in the little spare time they do have so that never really works out that well.
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maybe the above is your experiences, but let me give a different perspective.
actually for older people golf is a sport/hobby. People meet on the courses all the time. A good amount of business deals are done on golf courses.
people who work on cars meet people all the time too, not in their own garage, but usually at some point in time they want to show off their ride, so they go to meet ups, street races, and other car centric events.
I have friends who go kayaking, scuba diving, surfing, skiing, boating, 4x4, road touring. There are lots of activities that people do and they meet other people doing the same thing.
meeting people at bars? there are lots of bars in the major metropolitans that certain groups of people hang out from industry types to hobby types. I can think of some journalist to broadway bars, BDSM to Music. I made lots of contacts in my barstool sitting days, some are friends of mine still after 10 years.
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