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I have had the same friends for about 15 years. But if you really want to make lasting friends you cant really just expect to say hi to a nice stranger and hope it lasts. you need to have stuff in common. what you need is a hobby to share with someone. bike riding cars motorcycles fishing beating up clowns whatever. need a common ground to start with after you get that and you can BS about that for a long time and waste away the days you can build off of that. but the real question is just how many adults have real hobbies? Most people over the age of about 20 dont really seem to have any real hobbies that get them out of the house and meeting people. drinking dosnt count btw. Think about the sort of stuff older people do. Screw around with cars maybe but thats mostly a at home sort of thing not going to meet anyone in your own garage. go golfing? not very social at all there. Going to the bar is social but... cant really build much of a friendship off of something like that. not much to talk about there.
Basicly if you can meet a bunch of people that have the same hobbies as you then pick out the nice ones that you get along with then weed out the real lunitics and stick with the only mildy strange ones theres a good chance you will become good friends. The only real way for friends you meet at work to really last would be if you had something in common you could share other then work. Most people dont want to talk about or think about work in the little spare time they do have so that never really works out that well.
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