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It's hard to make new friends when you're in a new place. I think it's taken me about a year to turn anyone who lives nearby from a familiar face into a friend. I've had friends almost everywhere I've lived. Every time I've had to conciously go looking to make a friend. I usually get to the point where you are and say "HEY! I have no friends and I need SOMEBODY." It's then that instead of saying "Hi" and walking by I start saying "Hi, my name is Heather, I noticed you lived next door, how long have you lived here?" And purposefully start a conversation. The next time I see them the greeting is more than a Hi and the friendship builds. There are some people that I start to get to know and then realize it's pointless, or that we don't click. That's ok. At least they know your name and since you're neighbors that's always a good thing.
The last friend I made was my neighbor who lives next door. Or neighbors - we get along with everyone that we know on the street. We've met the people from all but one house at the opposite end of the block. The one friend that I am friends with as you describe it, it took a little concious effort to make the friend. We moved here 1 yr 7 mo ago and we've been that kind of friend for just over a year.
I did find it harder to get to know people before I had a kid. The kid pushes you outside your comfort zone because you want to know who lives around your kids.
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