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You most definitely were "too" into her too quickly. You had a good opportunity to sleep with her (no strings attached) if you wanted but you probably didn't know it. Once girls throw you into the "friend zone," it's quite a peril to find your way out. The trick is to always make your stance known by flirting with the girl a little bit and not being extremely caring/nice. Why? Because if she thinks of you as someone who will always say "yes" to a favor and who will call her every day then she will automatically think you are "too nice" and send you straight into the dreaded friend zone.
You do have one pretty good option still open though. Be her friend and wait for the day she actually dumps her ex. You'll probably be first in line if you play your cards right.
As to what Abaya said, it's best to play no games once your IN the relationship, not before hand. To say courting isn't a game would be ignorant, and we all know games were meant to be played. If you decide to not play along and "be yourself" you'll probably just end up empty handed. Being yourself has pretty much come to mean not thinking strategically or ahead and to just go with the flow. Sorry to say it but it's true. That doesn't mean you can't be honest with her. You should be honest with her. Just say the truths that make you look good and leave out anything that doesn't. It's all strategy.
Right now making this girl your girl friend is going to be a much more daunting task than sleeping with her. Whichever you choose I wish you the best of luck.
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