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Originally Posted by blahblah454
...Now when I talk to her I feel like I have failed somehow. I honestly feel terrible, its like I don't work properly or something. I am a healthy 21 year old male so blood flow and all that jazz works just fine. But yea, this has been making me feel like complete shit all day, I just feel so usless.
... but honestly I am terrified that this might happen again. Seeing as it would have been our first time I was worried about cumming too fast or something, but nothing like this even entered my mind. I used to always say little dirty things to her all day to make her smile but I just couldn't today, before they rang true because I could actually do them... now if feels like I am a big imposter if I were to even say anything sexual to her.
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Dude, you have a case of performance anxiety. It sucks, but if you are a 21 year-old and are in good health, then this is mental.
Looking at the post above, you are driving straight into the brick wall, the whole time your hands are frozen at the wheel and you are saying "Oh My God!! I am going to hit that Brick Wall!!!"
Uh, yeah, if you concentrate only on that and lose focus on the rest of the world.
Stop thinking about it. You want this girl so bad that a little devil BlahBlah has appeared on your shoulder.
Devil: Don't fuck this up.
BlahBlah: What are you talking about? I am 21, in good health, this girl wants me, I get hard when she touches me. I can't possibly fuck it up.
Devil: Sure you can, if you think about it long enough!
BlahBlah: Oh..... oh shit.
My suggestion: Get her off. Do what you gotta do, but get her off. Once the big-O has happened, your confidence will return and you can resort to being Captain Jackhammer (affiliated with the Laying-Pipe Brigade). You are more stressed out than a whore in church. Why stressed? Go down on that girl for a couple of hours, bring out your A-game, and you are golden.
Have fun.
Get messy.
Tell this girl that you are stressed out about performance anxiety, which is a self-fulfilling prophecy. You are fucked (and she isn't) unless everything calms down and things happen as they happen.