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but still how can he tell me i'm beautiful and sexy if he's been watching sex bombs for eternity?!? i'm like almost nothing compare to these porn stars, so i can he really think what he says when talking about my
appearance ???
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BECAUSE HE'S WITH
YOU AND NO ONE ELSE!!!
And because watching people have sex is hot! People are visual creatures. It's a hell of a lot faster for most people to watch some porn to get aroused than to sit with their eyes closed and fantasise. Plus you get all the details sketched out for you- and you get to watch people have sex. That's hot. Guys masturbate a hell of a lot more than most women, that's normal, that's ok, that's what I'd do if I had a penis. Women are usually taught to cover up their bodies, be modest, and above all don't flaunt their sexuality. Guys are generally taught to get out there and put as many notches on their belt as possible. This leads to very different views of sex by men and women, and problems between them in communicating about sex with the topic comes up.
Honey, if you've been with this guy for 2 years and you're just now learning about his porn... I think you need to talk more with your BF about your sexuality, and go off and explore your sexuality more! Once again, I recommend
The Guide to Getting It ON! by Paul Johannes. Best sex book ever. Also, cruise on over to
www.goodvibes.com - it's a site that celebrates women's sexuality. They publish a lot of books on sex, and the company and website are all done by women for women.
Remember, sex is more than just inserting Tab A into Slot B and then repeating- it's connecting with your partner, enjoying your lover's body, releasing tension and becoming closer with your SO. Explore your sexuality, take charge of it, enjoy it- that's what it's there for! Sex is FUN, all aspects of sex are FUN! Don't look at discovering your BF's porn as a "bad" thing, look at it as a wonderful chance to become closer with him through exploring your sexuality and the sexual chemistry in your relationship!