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hilbert25 · 04-20-2006, 07:01 AM

So I've got myself into a situation with no possible graceful exit strategy.

Here's the deal:
About 8 months ago my father (80 years old) was diagnosed with metastatic cancer and a life expectency of 3 months. As it happened, in the same week, the house I was renting was sold, so I lost my lease and was rightly fucked. My father's house was not in driving distance from my current employer, so I took a leave of absence for 3 months to be with my father to take care of him.

Well long story short, it's 8 months or so later and he's still doing pretty well. Every time he asks the doctors he gets the same answer "3 months" and every time he gives them shit when he surpasses their expectations. Currently, I am still employed by my previous employer, in a part time work at home capacity. This has resulted in significantly less pay, a bit of stagnation in terms of learning, and absolutely no benefits. They did this as a favor to me, on a temporary basis, but right now, there is no end in sight, which is a great thing, but it has made a graceful exit rather difficult.

So right about the time went on my leave of absence I posted my resume on monster and dice, since I did not know if I would still have a job when everything settled.

I've been getting calls from recruiters and courteously answering their questions, staying open to the possibilities, but now a recruiter has just hooked me up with a company where I am living now that has just made me an offer in the space of about 3 days. An offer of 20% more than my previous salary with benefits (which I am sorely lacking at the moment).

Here's where it's difficult, my current boss has been really good to me and is probably the only reason I'm currently employed, but he does not know about any of this yet. The new company wants me to report promptly in 2 weeks if I were to take the offer. So if I were to leave my current company, my supervisor probably wouldn't look especially good for keeping me employed if I were to just up and leave. So the question is, do I go from a great supervisor and a great working environment to something unknown, simply for financial benefit? I don't want to burn bridges at my current employer because I've been pretty close to all of my coworkers and my supervisor, and it feels like I'm betraying the trust of my current boss to just get out of dodge for money. I have pressure from the rest of my family to make my move permanent, but when I first moved, I had not especially thought what would happen, but now I don't know what I would really want.

04-20-2006, 07:01 AM	#1 (permalink)
hilbert25 Psycho Location: nOvA	Career choices and morality So I've got myself into a situation with no possible graceful exit strategy. Here's the deal: About 8 months ago my father (80 years old) was diagnosed with metastatic cancer and a life expectency of 3 months. As it happened, in the same week, the house I was renting was sold, so I lost my lease and was rightly fucked. My father's house was not in driving distance from my current employer, so I took a leave of absence for 3 months to be with my father to take care of him. Well long story short, it's 8 months or so later and he's still doing pretty well. Every time he asks the doctors he gets the same answer "3 months" and every time he gives them shit when he surpasses their expectations. Currently, I am still employed by my previous employer, in a part time work at home capacity. This has resulted in significantly less pay, a bit of stagnation in terms of learning, and absolutely no benefits. They did this as a favor to me, on a temporary basis, but right now, there is no end in sight, which is a great thing, but it has made a graceful exit rather difficult. So right about the time went on my leave of absence I posted my resume on monster and dice, since I did not know if I would still have a job when everything settled. I've been getting calls from recruiters and courteously answering their questions, staying open to the possibilities, but now a recruiter has just hooked me up with a company where I am living now that has just made me an offer in the space of about 3 days. An offer of 20% more than my previous salary with benefits (which I am sorely lacking at the moment). Here's where it's difficult, my current boss has been really good to me and is probably the only reason I'm currently employed, but he does not know about any of this yet. The new company wants me to report promptly in 2 weeks if I were to take the offer. So if I were to leave my current company, my supervisor probably wouldn't look especially good for keeping me employed if I were to just up and leave. So the question is, do I go from a great supervisor and a great working environment to something unknown, simply for financial benefit? I don't want to burn bridges at my current employer because I've been pretty close to all of my coworkers and my supervisor, and it feels like I'm betraying the trust of my current boss to just get out of dodge for money. I have pressure from the rest of my family to make my move permanent, but when I first moved, I had not especially thought what would happen, but now I don't know what I would really want.