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Meaningful communication is hard work. Risky, intimidating hard work, where the prospect of failure always seems closer than success. You have to be willing to be outside of your comfort zone and take your lumps.
As such, the best way to learn is by example and through experience. Until you've seen successful communication in action, how can trust in its value? Without experience, it's just another platitude like "get an education" or "trust in yourself".
Actual experience is tricky, because of the old catch 22 where you need experience to get the job, but also the job to get experience.
If your parents and other role models are good communicators, then you're half way there. Being naturally petty or vengeful on the other hand, puts you in a hole. As well, the more you'be been hurt in the past, the harder all this is; once bitten, twice shy and all that.
To break that attrition, you have to just dive in, fully understanding that despite your good intentions, the effort will be rough, clumsy and could hurt. But sure enough, once that raw, awkward communication is out there, it can get easier. "You have to go through it, to get to it." It takes courage, faith, and good intentions to believe this.
Does this all sound a bit aphoristic? Is "aphoristic" even a word? I could try editing this post forever, and never feel it communicates my thoughts, but here it is. Here is where we start.
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Building an artificial intelligence that appreciates Mozart is easy. Building an A.I. that appreciates a theme restaurant is the real challenge - Kit Roebuck - Nine Planets Without Intelligent Life
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