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If you get on with your parents, and they don't mind, and onodrim also gets on with them, and her own, and vice versa, and it's not a big deal, save the money and live at home. Sometimes money being tight can cause strain on even the healthiest relationship. Also, if you wait a little before you move in together and save up, it'll all just make it more valuable and exciting when you finally do.
Also, and contrary to what many people will say nowadays, I think that moving in with your partner should be a lot more of an "important event", in terms of commitment to one another and taking on responsibilities, than it is at present. I think people move in with each other too quickly these days and don't take it as seriously as they should. Even if you don't think so, it's a big step and it's not like just having roommates - that would be totally the wrong attitude. I think that's a big part of why many relationships fail.
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Whether we write or speak or do but look
We are ever unapparent. What we are
Cannot be transfused into word or book.
Our soul from us is infinitely far.
However much we give our thoughts the will
To be our soul and gesture it abroad,
Our hearts are incommunicable still.
In what we show ourselves we are ignored.
The abyss from soul to soul cannot be bridged
By any skill of thought or trick of seeming.
Unto our very selves we are abridged
When we would utter to our thought our being.
We are our dreams of ourselves, souls by gleams,
And each to each other dreams of others' dreams.
Fernando Pessoa, 1918
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