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raeanna74 · 04-18-2006, 07:43 AM

Forget about sex for a while. You should not be worrying about it at all. If you aren't using protection to avoid getting pregnant again before you are financially stable then you should not be having sex. With your boyfriend or anyone else.

You do not have a stable or healthy relationship right now. You have two choices
1. Stay with it and work on it. Which means no cheating at all.
2. Leave. Get a job if you don't have one and move out. You CAN do it. When hubby and I first got married I worked at a fast food restaurant while he worked part time in at an electronics store. We were not earning a lot but we worked.

I would recommend moving out. Any man who feels the need to resort to verbal or physical abuse (hitting is not the only kind of physical abuse) is not worth having around. ESPECIALLY around a baby. You will not ever have a good relationship as long as this lasts. Sure he'll stop abusing for a short time and guilt trip you into staying or feeling bad for making him angry. Then the abuse will begin again. It make take a year cycle or 3 month cycle or cycle through in less than a day. He'll be the sweetest man in the world for about 3 hours and then, JAB in your side and another shut up out of the blue. Please get out and PLEASE don't complicate things by having more sex and perhaps getting pregnant by a second man.

You sound young, inexperienced (in life issues), and you have a lot of responsibility toward your child. If you are afraid that you'll loose your child don't worry about that. Some local women's shelters will help connect you with pro-bono lawyers for young women with little to no income. They'll also help connect you with a job. Get out and get some responsible help that will treat you with respect.

04-18-2006, 07:43 AM	#20 (permalink)
raeanna74 I'm not a blonde! I'm knot! I'm knot! I'm knot! Location: Upper Michigan	Forget about sex for a while. You should not be worrying about it at all. If you aren't using protection to avoid getting pregnant again before you are financially stable then you should not be having sex. With your boyfriend or anyone else. You do not have a stable or healthy relationship right now. You have two choices 1. Stay with it and work on it. Which means no cheating at all. 2. Leave. Get a job if you don't have one and move out. You CAN do it. When hubby and I first got married I worked at a fast food restaurant while he worked part time in at an electronics store. We were not earning a lot but we worked. I would recommend moving out. Any man who feels the need to resort to verbal or physical abuse (hitting is not the only kind of physical abuse) is not worth having around. ESPECIALLY around a baby. You will not ever have a good relationship as long as this lasts. Sure he'll stop abusing for a short time and guilt trip you into staying or feeling bad for making him angry. Then the abuse will begin again. It make take a year cycle or 3 month cycle or cycle through in less than a day. He'll be the sweetest man in the world for about 3 hours and then, JAB in your side and another shut up out of the blue. Please get out and PLEASE don't complicate things by having more sex and perhaps getting pregnant by a second man. You sound young, inexperienced (in life issues), and you have a lot of responsibility toward your child. If you are afraid that you'll loose your child don't worry about that. Some local women's shelters will help connect you with pro-bono lawyers for young women with little to no income. They'll also help connect you with a job. Get out and get some responsible help that will treat you with respect. __________________ "Always learn the rules so that you can break them properly." Dalai Lama My Karma just ran over your Dogma.