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I don't know if you can save your relationship. I hope for your child's sake that you can. This should be the priority. Your child needs stability, not conflict, which is the inevitible result of cheating.

I'm betting that what's most attractive about this friend, is his convenience. Your relationship with your boyfriend is suffering under the realities of adult life and this other guy is a handy "no strings" kind of guy. At least you have convinced yourself of this.

Sleeping with him will only bring on a big mess of drama. First of all, your boyfriend will feel doubly betrayed if both his best friend and his girlfriend/mother of his child cheat on him. He already seems pretty resentful of the current situation, and his roughness could escalate.

Furthermore, you're actully in a pretty weak position. If he has to choose loyalties, the friend will likely side with you're boyfriend, and you're living under your boyfriend's parents' roof. They are supporting you, and will no doubt feel equally betrayed if you cheat. God forbid, they could kick you out. What then?

As to the threesome idea, forget it. You'd only be opening up those same loyalty/jealousy issues, but in a different way.

You have to consider all the consequences, not just thrill of the idea.

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