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Originally Posted by savvypup
I have to disagree here Doncalypso. If they had issues in the past, perhaps space and the chance to grow and have other experiences with other people is just what was needed for them to truly appreciate each other, even if returns just as a friendship. I think it would be normal to imagine what you're thinking ........ and I don't really know how to overcome this, other than the past is the past. Look forward and enjoy the times you're having together now. Did you have other partners or is this the problem? Would you feel this way if you too had run amok with others?
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I do agree that it is possible to maintain a civil/cordial relationship with an ex, but that's only if the breakup did not involve betrayal and harsh words.
I still keep in contact with two of my four ex-girlfriends. In one case we broke up because she was too jealous and we were too young for a serious relationship (I was 16 and she was 15). With the most recent ex, we broke up because our paths took different directions after we graduated from college, and to this day we haven't seen each other. In both cases the ex-girlfriends and I still keep in touch via e-mail or AOL Instant Messenger from time to time, but there's no way we'd ever get back into a romantic relationship---especially considering that the first ex is now married and has a child.
As you say, the past is the past---and this is the exact reason why you shouldn't get back with an ex because they belong in your past; not your present or your future.