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I've fallen out of love with people, and I've had someone fall out of love with me. The former is much easier!
When you're the person who is doing the breaking up, the best thing to do is not to allow any attempts by your recent ex to coax you into sympathy physical activities. Questions such as "Can we still cuddle?" must be responded to with a firm No. The other person still has feelings for you and may appeal to your sympathetic side, saying that it will help them get over it (which it won't) or that it will make them feel better (won't do that either, it just drags it out).
When you're the one getting broken up with, try to take some time away from that person. It's hard, but it's important to spend time apart to try to grasp the situation as fully as possible. It's also important because it speeds up the getting-over-it process; spending a lot of time together -- "We're still really good friends!" -- will not help anything, and will only make you miss them more because you will miss being able to do all the things you used to be able to do. You also have to accept the fact that they have pretty much gotten over you already, so taking time apart from them to get over them is the best way to try to "catch up".
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The word "time" split its husk; poured its riches over him; and from his lips fell like shells, like shavings from a plane, without his making them, hard, white, imperishable words, and flew to attach themselves to their places in an ode to Time; an immortal ode to Time.
—Virginia Woolf, Mrs Dalloway
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