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Everything apparently culminated last night, though, when she was arrested for Operating a vehicle under the influence (she blew a .01, (the legal limit in Green Bay is .008) Operating a vehicle without a license, (she just turned 15) attempting to elude a police officer, and Grand Theft Auto, a felony offence.
I was absolutely blown away. I couldn't, and still can't believe it. Her hearing is tomorrow, so I'll know more of what happened, but from what I gather she must have walked out of the house after her mother went to bed, and apparently stumbled across a car a few blocks away with the keys in it. She hopped in and drove off. A police officer attempted to pull her over because she didn't have headlights on, and she accelerated sharply, lost control of the vehicle (spun out in the middle of the street, no damage to the vehicle) got out and ran and hid. The officer, oblivious that he was chasing a 15 year old girl who probably weights all of 100 pounds, pulled out his gun and tackled her to the ground in the dark. From my understanding, she tried to resist still and was bruised all over her arms, back, and face from the officer attempted to restrain her/tackling her.
Un-fucking-Real...
Please keep in mind that I would have never expected this from her, and for something like this to happen is incomprehsible. I haven't spoken to her, as she is in the juvenile detention center, but she has a hearing tomorrow afternoon, which I'll attend.
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Don't make excuses for her, and don't blame the police officer for doing his job. She is old enough to know better and old enough to take responsibility for her actions...
Has this girl had any kind of therapy at all? Is she in counselling? Is she still in school?
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Anyway, probably about four or five months ago my half brother and his wife got into quite the argument with me. The basically felt that I was trying to undermine their authority, and blamed me for a lot of problems that they were having with their daughter. For example, I told their daughter that if she ever needed anything - a place to stay, money, a ride, whatever the case may be - she should call me first. I wanted her to know that I was going to be there for her no matter what - even if her parents weren't. I understand on a basic level why her parents would be upset with me for saying this, but at the same time, if she were to run away or something like that, I would much prefer that she came to my house - where I know she is safe, and I know where she is, rather than try to live on the streets or something like that.
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I honestly think this was out of line on your part to say this. You're giving her an easy out, instead of dealing with what's going on. Has she said anything about running away?
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For the last year she has pretty much been grounded non-stop, for a random variety of things, none of them really a big deal. (Talking on the phone too late, things like that)
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I hope you didn't say that to her... House rules are house rules.. .If she's breaking those rules... then there are consequences... You might think the rules are stupid,b ut you don't live there... it's not your place to say what rules are and aren't a big deal.
She needs help, but I think she needs way more help than you can give her... Maybe she will get assigned some therapy in court, but unless she wants it to help (and it doesn't sound like she does) it's not going to do much good.