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retcop0470 · 04-06-2006, 05:18 AM

Hey thanks for replying, I didn't think that would happen. This has really just occured over the last two years when she moved both of them out of our school system where I worked at their school, to another system, and instead of taking them to school everyday, and seeing them everyday, I see them once a week for dinner and everyother weekend except during the Summer when it is one week on/one week off throughout. She has our 12 year old watch him after school, and I think he feels it is two against one. I would meet her before school to take them to school, but they both start at different times, and she will not meet me in the morning half way to do this. Another problem I think is her revolving door boyfriend (since our divorce 10 years ago, she has been engaged twice, one broken off, the other she divorced and about 8 boyfriends since then, always "their" fault.) After their fight last night over a toy she promised him (all I heard over the phone and usually is, I want to come live there, she promised me and she is a liar, and crying uncontrollably.) (Very hard to listen to when you are 30 miles away). I asked her last night if she wanted him to live with me and she told me, "no that is not the answer, he has to learn to live by my rules." Well, told her I could not get him to calm down over the phone. I feel that she has so much upheaval there, and wants all of us to feel the way she is, so she is sharing. Because although we get along, there is usually something that happens, or I'm not doing enough to handle the situation. Well, certainly cannot handle that anymore. Sorry this is so long. However, she is the type of person that expects them to get straight A's and B's, to have their homework done before she gets home from work, and when a project is due it is usually "I think that should be a father-son project." When he gets mad and tries to talk ill of his mother, I tell him not to. I, although I inside cannot stand her, will never say anything bad about her, because I work with children and see the effects of that. This is only the tip of the iceberg.

04-06-2006, 05:18 AM	#4 (permalink)
retcop0470 Upright	Hey thanks for replying, I didn't think that would happen. This has really just occured over the last two years when she moved both of them out of our school system where I worked at their school, to another system, and instead of taking them to school everyday, and seeing them everyday, I see them once a week for dinner and everyother weekend except during the Summer when it is one week on/one week off throughout. She has our 12 year old watch him after school, and I think he feels it is two against one. I would meet her before school to take them to school, but they both start at different times, and she will not meet me in the morning half way to do this. Another problem I think is her revolving door boyfriend (since our divorce 10 years ago, she has been engaged twice, one broken off, the other she divorced and about 8 boyfriends since then, always "their" fault.) After their fight last night over a toy she promised him (all I heard over the phone and usually is, I want to come live there, she promised me and she is a liar, and crying uncontrollably.) (Very hard to listen to when you are 30 miles away). I asked her last night if she wanted him to live with me and she told me, "no that is not the answer, he has to learn to live by my rules." Well, told her I could not get him to calm down over the phone. I feel that she has so much upheaval there, and wants all of us to feel the way she is, so she is sharing. Because although we get along, there is usually something that happens, or I'm not doing enough to handle the situation. Well, certainly cannot handle that anymore. Sorry this is so long. However, she is the type of person that expects them to get straight A's and B's, to have their homework done before she gets home from work, and when a project is due it is usually "I think that should be a father-son project." When he gets mad and tries to talk ill of his mother, I tell him not to. I, although I inside cannot stand her, will never say anything bad about her, because I work with children and see the effects of that. This is only the tip of the iceberg. Last edited by retcop0470; 04-06-2006 at 05:21 AM..