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Old 04-01-2006, 08:18 AM   #27 (permalink)
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Originally Posted by innovis
So my question is, especially for the college aged ladies, how do you feel about guys randomly approaching you at bookstores, student events, the grocery store, and non-dating type situations and asking for either your contact information or attempting to converse with you? Also, how do you feel about it if you're with a friend?

If you're open to the idea, in what way should a guy approach you? What would be most successful?
I'm not a female, but I've got tons of experience...

Approaching woman in public:
  • Every female is open to being approached. Get the idea out of your mind that woman want it less than men, it's not true. Don't worry about her havinga BF or husband, if she does, she'll make it clear. (On a side note, if you feel like you're geting somewhere with the chick and she says she has a BF, ignore it untill her actions/bodylanguage/words are congruent with what's she's saying... they'll often say this just to see if it'll mess your vibeup)
  • Don't come off needy like, "Um, excuse me... can I talk to you... you seem nice and I'm really loney".
  • Don't be reaction seeking. The second the chick feels you needing a responce from her it's over.
  • When you first talk to a chick, there's a 90/10 rule. You do 90 of the talking 10 percent of the listening. Once she opens up (starts asking you questions) bring it down to 50/50.
  • Don't use canned lines (aka pickup lines). Girls can smell them.
  • If you're into the chick, don't hide it. Again, grils can read your body language and voice tonality like a map... atleast subconsciousally, if you hide it you'll come off as a pussy.
The best way I've found to start conversations is just start talking about something in your enviorment. The book she's holding, the good or bad music playing, how cold or hotit is (just not the weather please).

MAKE HER LAUGH, just not because you need it to feel comfortable,

End the conversation first by saying something along the lines of:
you: Hey, I've got to go, but you seem nice/fun/cool/whatever, we should hang out/continue this some other time.
her: yeah, totally OR ok,here's my number
you: (if she didn't allready give you her number) how can we get ahold of eachother?
her: here's my email/screenmane/phonenumber

The best way to get good at this is just to talk to everyone you meet.

That's about it.
You're welcome

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