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I won't be as harsh as the others, but I'll agree. She broke up with you (maybe for good reasons), she maybe still has some feelings, and she's totally lost at what she's going to do next. She's not dealing well with not having a boyfriend and being on her own. She doesn't know what to do. She's flailing around emotionally. And part of that flailing involves thinking "Maybe if I went back to the way things were, all this uncertainty would go away and it'd be better than it was last time."
Basically, she needs to grow up and get over this and let go. Imagine if the sexes were reversed and your were the woman and she was the guy. Imagine a guy making long, self-serving calls to the woman's brother. Imagine he tells the woman he still loves her but can't committ, but still wants to come around and cuddle up. Just about every woman (and most men) would say, "Wotta loser! He won't commit but he still wants to hang around!"
Okay, I am being harsh. She is acting like a loser, and she needs to grow up. Break it off; don't enable her. As the others say, if somebody else good comes along, she'll probably back off and leave you even _more_ confused. Because what it comes down to is, she just doesn't know how to be alone right now. She's got to learn that.
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